Without boobs, without loved ones, without any fucks.

The holiday season is in full swing; we’re talking parties, treats, games and well, a lot of feelings.

These feelings can be superficial (meaning visual, not shallow), with struggling to find the perfect outfit for the work holiday party. They can also be super deep, like missing that family member that is no longer with us. Spending the holidays missing our loved ones is inevitable. We will eventually lose someone near and dear to us; so, how do we make it through the season without?

The secret: we are never really without. Our loved ones are always with us, kept in our hearts and memories. Especially during the holiday season. We have memories of them singing carols, attending church, baking cookies and opening presents with us. We remember their laugh, their tears at “It’s a Wonderful Life”, their competitive nature when playing cards. AND, we take these memories and weave them into our actions.

We bring out the games, watch the movies, and laugh, cry and compete. We live the holiday as if they were here with us right now, because they are. They are always within us. We are always making them proud, making them laugh, making them cry. Just because a person isn’t physically with us doesn’t mean they stop living. They live on within us. Forever.

Hold on to the way they made you feel. Then make someone else feel that way. Hold on you the way they held you and pass a hug on. Hold on to them, because they have made you who you are; and, you now get a chance to have them effect someone the same way, through you.

Our loved ones are never really gone… 😇

ahem, I’m not crying, you’re crying. 😢 That’s right, accept the tears because if we don’t feel the sadness and pain how can we feel the love and joy. Soak it up, feel their love. Take a deep breath, exhale.

Now, on to the more “superficial” topic. How do we dress for the holidays….

You give zero fucks. You buy an outfit that makes you feel awesome. You move and dance in the dressing room and if you’re not shaking it all the way out to show the attendants, it isn’t for you. If you haven’t already figured it out, you can wear anything. It’s your confidence that makes the outfit. Boobs or no boobs. Confidence is the most important accessory.

If you’re not ready to embrace your flatness and all its glory. Choose a top with a pattern or ruffle; try some dazzling sequins and layer the outfit with a cute crop jacket. In the end no matter what you choose, love yourself in whatever you’ve got on… or don’t have on! 😉

Our bodies are these amazing vessels to house our souls, to express our personalities. We only get one. Treat it with respect. Hydrate, eat the rainbow, workout, lift heavy things and my goodness, smile! There is always something to smile about. Even in the darkest of times.